INDIVIDUAL COACHING
“I experienced a level of patience and careful listening from Davis that allowed me to open up in unexpected ways. His ability to ask the right questions at the right time enabled me to process my grief and distill it into empowerment. I would recommend Davis to anyone.”
Philosophy
I appreciate the thought of Ram Dass that ‘we’re all just walking each other home’. In my path as a coach, it’s very important - essential even - to recognize that I’m walking alongside my client, and that they know ‘home’ (despite any misgivings they may have). I’m learning to trust that each of us can feel what brings us closer to home. While ‘home’ is a safe place, it is also a space of immense freedom: it is a space where we don’t have to carry or pick up burdens, a place where we can experience true relief. So my coaching practice is designed for the purpose of walking the client home, or at least walking with them in that direction for a while.
As we walk you home together, there will be junctures and crossroads where decisions will need to be made. In traditional therapy these crossroads can be referred to as points of exploration. While this can be helpful for me – to think of significant moments of decision-making as part of a larger exploration – I find that it’s also important to take these moments of conundrum as opportunities to focus in on where home really lies. What practices, people, and ways of being and doing can you fully trust and give yourself over to? What is truest for you?
My best moments as a coach come when I ask questions that provoke your own powers of insight; questions that support you in piercing through the veils of shame and pride so that you can begin to, or continue to, move towards home. For me, home is both a place to finally arrive and the process of ‘homing’: the journey of investigating the inner landscapes of one’s heart and soul.
“I love the combination of celebration and humility.”
What can I expect?
Sessions last 60-90 minutes (unless otherwise specified). They begin with a checking in and grounding process that will support you to reconnect to your body, breath, and heart, and to widen your bandwidth as you prepare to come into contact with deeper aspects of your own being and humanity.
We will then select a destination that you’ll be moving toward during the session and assess what external roadblocks or internal hesitations might keep you from reaching that chosen place where you’d like to arrive.
From there, the rest of the session is oriented toward your process of exploring, questioning, realizing, choice-making, and actualizing. This can include parts work, visualization, breath investigation, sensation investigation, exploration of past challenges, generation of new perspectives, assessment of practical pathways forward, pattern recognition, and the anchoring in/taking ownership of desires and intentions.
The last part of the session almost always includes making commitments to actions that align to the general understanding and specific insights that developed during the session.
After the session, I’ll send you a follow-up synopsis that is offered in support of your integration, and as a support for you actualizing your commitments. We’ll check in with one another in the days and/or weeks following each session, to create a space to share the impact of the session and potentially the impacts - often positive - of taking action in relation to your commitments.
“My greatest achievement in our work was to recognize the volume of my inner resources and to support myself as I am. I still continue to hone this skill: to see and recognize my situation and restrictions, and evaluate my achievements in connection with the real state of affairs, and not my fantasies about perfecting myself... I can’t help noting the quality of your accompaniment. You did summaries at the end of each meeting, sent letters with a worked-out program. You have always been in touch. You know how to create a receiving, kind, listening space.”